"In the end, it's not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away"- Shing Xiong
We often fantasize about a place where we will relax. "I will be happier when I don't have to work." "I will be happier when I don't have all these bills." "I will be happier when I have the house with the white picket fence and 2 kids." We justify our busy natures as a means to get to these places, and put off calling back that friend we haven't seen in months, or canceling that dinner date for the third time because "Im just SO busy." Chances are, in our fight to become un-busy, by the time we have gotten to a space where we can actually stretch out and relax, we won't even be able to truly appreciate it because we've worked ourselves into such a state of constant tension.
I have always said one of my most divine talents in life has been "to not think." I can count on one hand the number of times I have laid in bed and worried about something, even when there is much to worry about. Worrying, just seems so useless. Anyone who knows me can attest I am asleep within minutes of hitting the pillow. I have attributed that blessing to my ability to just....stop. After all, isn't the path to enlightenment the ability to not think, and just be present?
Here's the thing. We have gotten to the point where we believe that happiness will come once we succeed. Once we finish. Once we check off everything on the list. When in reality, only when we are truly happy, can we then be successful.
Now I love goals, and I am a huge planner. I am beyond organized, and I probably have an app for that.
Being that focused though, is not a stressful process for me, but rather an enjoyable one. In the last decade of my life I have seen monumental highs and lows in nearly aspect of my life. I have gone from a gorgeous home and couture on my back, to not being able to pay the rent, and back again. Some how, through it all, I remained confident I would prevail, and have learned to stop focusing on things I want. Instead, I focus on how it will make me feel. Instantly your energy shifts. Instead of making yourself busy by doing all the things you need to to get to where you were, or want to go, channel that energy into truly feeling and believing you can accomplish them, and see how much faster you arrive at your end result.
It's the American Dream. We all want to be rich and escape the rat race. Stop for a minute though, and think about what it is you're truly trying to accomplish. If you're fighting for a place where you can relax and be happy, wouldn't it be so much easier to just find balance along the way? No one is guaranteed tomorrow will be here, our days are in fact limited. Why waste the gifts you have of today, working for tomorrow?
Our realities are in our control. They do not need to be a dreadful existence of busy we are trying to escape. If you follow your passion, and do things that truly make you happy, we can then fill our days with work that is fulfilling and meaningful today, and not ten years from now.
The New Year is amazing because it inspires us so greatly to reboot and try again. It's a rare thing we feel the same way through out the year as we do at the beginning. How wonderful would it be if we did? Maybe this year we should all resolve to stop being so busy trying to maintain our resolutions and checking off the list, and rather, focus on approaching each day with the joyful optimism we have as the calendar ticks forward.
Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow is never promised. Think about what you really want, from today.