I realize as a personal trainer, clients often look to me to help transform their bodies into something they've always dreamed of. While nothing makes me happier than to deliver results, I also remember how important it is to begin the process with love first. Love for ourselves, no matter what shape or size we are. True love and acceptance of even our flaws, is the only way to begin addressing them, and only then will you truly be able to become your best self.
FIT DOES NOT COME IN ONE SIZE.
Being a size 2 or having a smaller waist does not make you better or stronger. Now of course my clients scoff at me at first, "Thats easy to say when you look like you." Well, I had to break it down and remind them we all have challenges. Mine were accepting my smaller build and letting go of this society induced pressure to be a "big man."
I didn't break 100 lbs until a junior in High School. At 21 I was 6'1" and 130 lbs. All I ever wanted was big muscles like all the other boys, and despite a journey of trying everything in the book (and eventually reaching 185 lbs in 2010) I realized my body was simply happy at my current weight now (about 170 lbs) and despite killing myself to gain more and grow this, it always wanted to happily be here. Now, Im not complaining. I know it sounds so annoying to complain about my inability to gain weight. It was a journey though. Of letting go....
Of no longer comparing myself to the stereotypical norm of what is masculine. In the fitness industry, my build is more like that of the female figure models, not the men. Being one who was never "normal," it really is just par for the course that my body prefers it's own unique twist. All this being said though, it in no way affects my levels of strength or fitness. Yes, I may not be able to bench press 500 lbs, but Im a tough cookie and strong to boot. I may not be the biggest one in the gym, but I sure as heck can run circles around most of those muscle heads who get winded just going up one flight of stairs.
So - to celebrate what makes us special, I asked my clients to write down 3 things they LOVED about their bodies. No other rules besides that. With the holidays upon us, and so much to be thankful for in all our lives, I felt it was a great time to share some pages from that night. Side note - I do love the almost unanimous celebration of our butts in these pages below. I guess all those WIMBERLEAN squat jumps are paying off.